One can have different opinions on how good or bad it is that a lot of us are living their life completly in public, posting the most intimate details on Facebook and Twitter – open for everyone to read including a future boss and the ex boyfriend. Even if we sometimes think – ouch I did not need to know that or get bored by the same complaints about late planes or bad coffee we have to read through, most of us would agree that all that usually is highly entertaining and more often than not helpful to stay in touch, take part in other peoples lifes and catch the news.
I was the same opinion until the other morning.
I opened facebook and right their on top of my newsfeed a status update form a friend’s mother. Or rather someone had added her date of death and her wall was full of condolences. I read my way through the wall and jumped to her daughter’s profile, slowly getting the puzzle together. Apparently a close friend had used her login to post the information about the fatal accident on her profile and people started reacting.
But what would my reaction be. The friend living at the other end of the world – we only used facebook for a lose contact. Under normal circumstances I probably would not have found out until way later. What to do know. Accept what a lot of people apparently considered ok and right my condolences on an public wall on facebook? Use a private message? Not react at all?
It felt strange and wrong but on the other hand this was where we always communicated – why switch now?
The final decision came fast as my news feed started telling me that new people now were friends with my friends dead mother. This finally drove me away. I logged of and retreated to other means of communication that seemed way more suitable in such a moment.
But what does that really tell us?
Is that acceptable? Apparently a lot of people, except me, thought so.
If we are putting all our life out there is it ok to do it with death as well. Am I overreacting?
All the information came straight from family or close friends. It did not seem like that wasn’t wanted by the family but still it feels strange.
Will this become a normal use case in our online behaviour?
Will there be a start up picking up this idea?
Leaves me wondering and doubting once again.